Redefining Mom: Lisa Ghaffari of Pacific Coffee Roasters
Lisa Ghaffari of Pacific Coffee Roasters is all about passion and drive. That’s how she got started: passion for coffee and drive to succeed in her own business. Born and raised in Montreal, she slowly made her way across Canada with stops in Ottawa and Jasper before arriving here in Vancouver. In Vancouver she met her wonderful husband who was actually only visiting family on vacation. They were married a few months later. They always wanted to have a coffee roastery and finally found the opportunity when they moved to Chilliwack, three children later and nine years of marriage later. We had the chance to chat with Lisa recently about how she’s redefining motherhood on her own terms.
Obstacles on the Journey to Redefining Mom
As you would expect, as a mom of three and a business owner Lisa encounters some pretty significant obstacles when it comes to keeping everything under control. She says, “One of the biggest obstacles is figuring out how to ‘juggle’: when to give the children the time they need and require and when to know when to put that on hold to make that very important phone call or email. This is the biggest obstacle because I work from home.” When we asked her how she overcomes that, she said, “I have learned not to push it so to speak with the children. When they want attention or need something from me sometimes I have to put everything aside and stop everything I am doing for the business, no matter how important.”
Like most moms, Lisa feels that the work she does in redefining motherhood on her own terms are worth the struggle. She feels that motherhood has made her better, saying, “I have learned to let go a bit, not be so crazy about being tidy and having everything in its place like when I was single. A very smart mother I know sent me this quote which I can absolutely relate to now, ‘Excuse the mess, my kids are making memories.'” She also hopes that her kids are learning by watching her. “I would like them to learn to work hard at whatever they choose to do in life and to have compassion for others. Never judge a book by its cover, it could be your next opportunity!”
Seeking Inspiration from Oprah
When you’re working hard and redefining motherhood on your own terms, you need some inspiration to keep you going. Lisa turns to the incomparable Oprah Winfrey for hers. “I keep a quote from Oprah above my computer. She says of her success, ‘I feel that luck is preparation meeting opportunity.’ Many times that quote keeps me going. Prepare, work hard and keep at it because you never know when opportunity will come knocking.” That’s some excellent advice, for sure.
Lisa’s learned a lot on her personal journey. She told us that if she could go back in time to when she was starting out and give herself some advice, she would say, “Be patient with regards to waiting on a response from a business or manager of a store, and patient with regards to my kids. Young children like mine need attention now so don’t fight it. Give in, handle the situation, you can always go back to work later. Managers are busy, give it some time, you will get your answer.” Patience is definitely something to cultivate in parenthood, no matter what you’re doing.
Thank you so much, Lisa, for sharing how you’re redefining the word “mom” for yourself and others!
Pacific Coffee Roasters
Amber Strocel is a writer, aspiring math teacher, suburbanite, wife and mom of two. She believes in the power of the Internet to connect people, and she believes that numbers are the poetry of the universe. You can often find her knitting, sewing, volunteering, working in her garden, and sneaking chocolate when no one's looking. She blogs at Strocel.com and shares her photos on Instagram as @AmberStrocel.